I'm a Christian. I don't disagree that God gave men and women different roles in the church and the family. I'm not only fine with that, I think that they are good ones and build women up. I don't think that Christians who conflate our cultural ideas of male and female roles with the Biblical instructions on male and female roles do anybody any good. It's not just bad feminism, it's bad doctrine, which is much more important from a Christian stand-point.
I say all that to point out that our patriarchy has had an influence even on things we should be very careful not to let be influenced by it. Which, I worry, sometimes makes it very difficult for men, who are otherwise feminists themselves, to think outside of their own privilege. All of which to say, I'm very wary of men who try to define feminism. (Especially if they come out with that "feminist vs feminine" line...whatever that means.) It's not that I don't think some men can do it. It's not even that some men don't do it very well. I just see a lot of men who try very hard and fall very flat.
Thoughts? Do you think there's anything we, as women, can do to help men understand what feminism is really about?