How do you deal with...bullying?

This is something I need a lot of help with...

I recently left another LJ community as I commented on a post about how Pro-Choice celebrities are always in the news for THEIR efforts, but I asked, why are the Pro-Life NOT covered in the media? There are a few prominent celebrities who ARE, yet their efforts go unnoticed. The freedom to speak our minds is SUPPOSED to be a two way street, right?

Apparently, I was met with a LOT of small minded people who kept yelling that I was 'anti-choice' and I didn't care about what happened to the baby after they were born. I got upset, posted the REAL definition of tolerance, and decided to leave the community because of how I was treated.

Now, what are we supposed to do when we're faced with angry mobs like that? How are we going to stay calm without acting as horrible as them while standing up for our beliefs? I hate confrontation, which is why I try to stay silent a lot of times, but there are cases where I need to stand up for it.

Any advice?
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Feeling the need to rant ...

Ugh. I was reading a story about a woman who* was perfectly justified in having an abortion (it was save her life), and I came across this gem:

"You shouldn’t need to know the details of why a woman aborts to trust her to make the best decision for herself."

I wonder how many other areas of life we could carry this over into ...

You shouldn't need to know the details of why a woman shoplifts to trust her to make the best decision for herself!
You shouldn't need to know the details of why a child bullies to trust her to make the decision for herself!
You shouldn't need to know the details of why a man rapes to trust him to make the best decision for himself!

When your decisions hurt people other than yourself, making the best decision for yourself isn't good enough.

* Assuming the story was reported accurately etc. etc.
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Komen and PP's messy break up

Surely you all have heard the news by now, but if not:

So what do you think? Did Komen make the right decision? Is the backlash fair or unfair?

This is pretty close to what I think:

I realize that Planned Parenthood provides valuable services, and abortion may well be only a small part of what they do, but I also feel there have been valid concerns brought up against them (the most egregious being the accusations that they cover up--or at least don't adequately investigate--evidence of sexual abuse and statutory rape). They are not above reproach, and I think it's fair to say "We will refrain from giving them funding until investigations have been made."

It also gives me hope (thought a faint one, I admit), that we may see some voice given to the idea that reproductive services do not *have* to be tied to abortion. That is, it may provide an opportunity for other non-profits that *aren't* tied to the abortion rights movement to step up and provide the kinds of valuable services that PP is supposed to be so great at providing.

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Baby cousin

Everybody who prays, please pray for my cousin, his girlfriend, and their little girl, who was born yesterday after 28 weeks in utero. She weighs less than three pounds, so she's going to have to be a pretty tough kid for a while here. Her mom's been on bed rest in the hospital since mid-July. From what I can tell, her parents weren't expecting to get pregnant with her when they did, so this is probably an especially big adjustment for them.

Very happy baby

Birthright training

I went to Birthright training on Saturday and it was seriously one of the hugest reliefs I've had in a while. They're very focused on helping individual women get through pregnancy and parenthood/adoption and very not into blaming, religious rhetoric, shaming women who get pregnant at inopportune times, et cetera. They also don't do anything related to either contraception or advocating abstinence because that's not what the organization's about.

Anyone else having any experience with Birthright?

Harry Reid's statement on the shutdown:

“My wife and I have been married for more than 50 years. We have one daughter and nine granddaughters. I love these women.

One day, one of them may need a cancer screening. It’s not a pleasant thought, but that’s the reality of life. Over their lives they’ll also need other tests like cholesterol and blood pressure screenings – tests that are less serious, but just as important.

They should be able to get the tests that could save their lives. So should every single woman in America. I believe that – and frankly, that’s not so controversial of a belief.

Some women, of course, have doctors. Others, including many of the poorest among us, do not. So where do they go to get blood pressure or cholesterol or cancer screenings?

Thankfully, there is a little-known part of a little-known law that saves many lives. It’s called Title X, and it’s part of a public health law. And it means that women and girls can go to their local health department or a community clinic and get these tests. More than five million women use centers funded by Title X every year. Five million.

Some watching us today – and we know the whole world is watching – may be asking why I’m talking about women’s health. When the question before us is the budget of the biggest economy on the planet, some may ask why we’re talking about this smallest corner of it.

With a government shutdown looming not weeks away, or days away, but just hours away – why are we talking about whether women can keep getting something as simple and as non-controversial as cancer screenings?

The answer is that Republicans want to shut down our nation’s government because they want to make it harder for women to get the health services they need.

And by the way, that does not include abortion. It is illegal to use federal funds for abortion services. So anyone who says this debate is over abortion isn’t being truthful. It is about simple and important health services.

Republicans want to shut down the government because they think there is nothing more important than keeping women from getting cancer screenings? That is indefensible, and everyone should be outraged – women and men. Republican leaders in the House have only a few hours left to look in the mirror, snap out of it and realize how positively shameful that would be.

For months, this conversation has been about billions and trillions of dollars. It has been about weighty issues and difficult decisions. This debate used to be about saving money.

No longer. We have an agreement on the cuts and savings. And that agreement includes a historic level of cuts.

But now the Tea Party is trying to sneak through its extreme social agenda – issues that have nothing to do with funding the government. They are willing to throw women under the bus, even if it means they’ll shut down the government.

Their agenda is an extreme agenda. I don’t agree with their ideas on social policy. But in our democracy, those ideas, however radical, deserve a debate if they want one.

But that debate does not belong in an urgent budget bill to keep the country running. And it especially doesn’t belong here at this late hour.

The consequences of letting our country’s funding expire would be devastating. It would be devastating to our troops, to our small businesses and to Americans’ everyday lives – people who just want to get a home loan or get their tax refund or get their paycheck. It would damage our image and credibility around the world.

But Republicans are asking me to sacrifice my wife’s health, my daughter’s health and my nine granddaughters’ health. They’re asking me to sacrifice the health of women in Nevada and across America. I won’t do it.

As a legislator, I’m frustrated. And as an American, I’m appalled. As a husband, a father and a grandfather, I’m personally offended.”