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Friday, July 26th, 2013
9:33 am
How do you deal with...bullying?
This is something I need a lot of help with...

I recently left another LJ community as I commented on a post about how Pro-Choice celebrities are always in the news for THEIR efforts, but I asked, why are the Pro-Life NOT covered in the media? There are a few prominent celebrities who ARE, yet their efforts go unnoticed. The freedom to speak our minds is SUPPOSED to be a two way street, right?

Apparently, I was met with a LOT of small minded people who kept yelling that I was 'anti-choice' and I didn't care about what happened to the baby after they were born. I got upset, posted the REAL definition of tolerance, and decided to leave the community because of how I was treated.

Now, what are we supposed to do when we're faced with angry mobs like that? How are we going to stay calm without acting as horrible as them while standing up for our beliefs? I hate confrontation, which is why I try to stay silent a lot of times, but there are cases where I need to stand up for it.

Any advice?

Current Mood: cranky
Friday, February 17th, 2012
3:48 pm
Feeling the need to rant ...
Ugh. I was reading a story about a woman who* was perfectly justified in having an abortion (it was save her life), and I came across this gem:

"You shouldn’t need to know the details of why a woman aborts to trust her to make the best decision for herself."

I wonder how many other areas of life we could carry this over into ...

You shouldn't need to know the details of why a woman shoplifts to trust her to make the best decision for herself!
You shouldn't need to know the details of why a child bullies to trust her to make the decision for herself!
You shouldn't need to know the details of why a man rapes to trust him to make the best decision for himself!

When your decisions hurt people other than yourself, making the best decision for yourself isn't good enough.

* Assuming the story was reported accurately etc. etc.
Thursday, February 2nd, 2012
9:58 pm
Komen and PP's messy break up
Surely you all have heard the news by now, but if not: http://www.reuters.com/article/2012/02/03/us-usa-healthcare-komen-idUSTRE8111WA20120203

So what do you think? Did Komen make the right decision? Is the backlash fair or unfair?

This is pretty close to what I think: http://blog.telladf.org/2012/02/02/planned-parenthood-needs-a-time-out/

I realize that Planned Parenthood provides valuable services, and abortion may well be only a small part of what they do, but I also feel there have been valid concerns brought up against them (the most egregious being the accusations that they cover up--or at least don't adequately investigate--evidence of sexual abuse and statutory rape). They are not above reproach, and I think it's fair to say "We will refrain from giving them funding until investigations have been made."

It also gives me hope (thought a faint one, I admit), that we may see some voice given to the idea that reproductive services do not *have* to be tied to abortion. That is, it may provide an opportunity for other non-profits that *aren't* tied to the abortion rights movement to step up and provide the kinds of valuable services that PP is supposed to be so great at providing.


Current Mood: optimistic
Monday, December 19th, 2011
12:25 pm
"It Only Takes a Girl," indeed.
Worth watching even if it's sort of "preaching to the choir" here.

Saturday, October 1st, 2011
4:25 pm
Baby hats!
Making a bunch of baby hats for Birthright - they're the first hats I've ever made, so I took pictures. Here are the first forty-eight.
Thursday, August 11th, 2011
5:12 am
Baby cousin
Everybody who prays, please pray for my cousin, his girlfriend, and their little girl, who was born yesterday after 28 weeks in utero. She weighs less than three pounds, so she's going to have to be a pretty tough kid for a while here. Her mom's been on bed rest in the hospital since mid-July. From what I can tell, her parents weren't expecting to get pregnant with her when they did, so this is probably an especially big adjustment for them.

Thursday, July 14th, 2011
10:22 pm
Tuesday, April 19th, 2011
10:29 pm
Birthright training
I went to Birthright training on Saturday and it was seriously one of the hugest reliefs I've had in a while. They're very focused on helping individual women get through pregnancy and parenthood/adoption and very not into blaming, religious rhetoric, shaming women who get pregnant at inopportune times, et cetera. They also don't do anything related to either contraception or advocating abstinence because that's not what the organization's about.

Anyone else having any experience with Birthright?
Friday, April 8th, 2011
7:34 pm
Harry Reid's statement on the shutdown:
“My wife and I have been married for more than 50 years. We have one daughter and nine granddaughters. I love these women.

One day, one of them may need a cancer screening. It’s not a pleasant thought, but that’s the reality of life. Over their lives they’ll also need other tests like cholesterol and blood pressure screenings – tests that are less serious, but just as important.

They should be able to get the tests that could save their lives. So should every single woman in America. I believe that – and frankly, that’s not so controversial of a belief.

Some women, of course, have doctors. Others, including many of the poorest among us, do not. So where do they go to get blood pressure or cholesterol or cancer screenings?

Thankfully, there is a little-known part of a little-known law that saves many lives. It’s called Title X, and it’s part of a public health law. And it means that women and girls can go to their local health department or a community clinic and get these tests. More than five million women use centers funded by Title X every year. Five million.

Some watching us today – and we know the whole world is watching – may be asking why I’m talking about women’s health. When the question before us is the budget of the biggest economy on the planet, some may ask why we’re talking about this smallest corner of it.

With a government shutdown looming not weeks away, or days away, but just hours away – why are we talking about whether women can keep getting something as simple and as non-controversial as cancer screenings?

The answer is that Republicans want to shut down our nation’s government because they want to make it harder for women to get the health services they need.

And by the way, that does not include abortion. It is illegal to use federal funds for abortion services. So anyone who says this debate is over abortion isn’t being truthful. It is about simple and important health services.

Republicans want to shut down the government because they think there is nothing more important than keeping women from getting cancer screenings? That is indefensible, and everyone should be outraged – women and men. Republican leaders in the House have only a few hours left to look in the mirror, snap out of it and realize how positively shameful that would be.

For months, this conversation has been about billions and trillions of dollars. It has been about weighty issues and difficult decisions. This debate used to be about saving money.

No longer. We have an agreement on the cuts and savings. And that agreement includes a historic level of cuts.

But now the Tea Party is trying to sneak through its extreme social agenda – issues that have nothing to do with funding the government. They are willing to throw women under the bus, even if it means they’ll shut down the government.

Their agenda is an extreme agenda. I don’t agree with their ideas on social policy. But in our democracy, those ideas, however radical, deserve a debate if they want one.

But that debate does not belong in an urgent budget bill to keep the country running. And it especially doesn’t belong here at this late hour.

The consequences of letting our country’s funding expire would be devastating. It would be devastating to our troops, to our small businesses and to Americans’ everyday lives – people who just want to get a home loan or get their tax refund or get their paycheck. It would damage our image and credibility around the world.

But Republicans are asking me to sacrifice my wife’s health, my daughter’s health and my nine granddaughters’ health. They’re asking me to sacrifice the health of women in Nevada and across America. I won’t do it.

As a legislator, I’m frustrated. And as an American, I’m appalled. As a husband, a father and a grandfather, I’m personally offended.”

(from firedoglake.com)
Thursday, February 10th, 2011
5:37 pm
In honor of Black History Month, I posted a link to the documentary Maafa 21 and discussed some of its facts on my journal. Thought some of you might appreciate the heads-up. :D
Monday, January 24th, 2011
6:50 pm
Revival + question
Just thought I'd pop in here quick to say that I'm reviving glbtq4life . While I'm posting...

If any of you have talked to people outside the pro-life movement about Kermit Gosnell, how much do they know about him? I'm worried that the media's not communicating just how barbaric this man is because the details are so horrific.
Monday, November 15th, 2010
10:25 pm
Donating to crisis pregnancy centers
I just wanted to take a minute to tell you all how easy and cheap it can be to donate to a crisis pregnancy center. I just started doing it in the last couple of weeks when I realized that Birthright was within walking distance of my apartment.

Though some baby stuff can cost a substantial amount of money, you can find low-priced stuff if you look at what clothes are on clearance. I bought a baby sweatshirt and onesie on clearance at Target for about two bucks each. I also got five pairs of tiny little Christmas-themed baby socks for five dollars. "Donating to a crisis pregnancy center" sounds like something huge, expensive, and time-consuming, but sometimes you just need a few bucks (or pounds or Euros or whatever) to provide baby supplies for people who really need them.

Actually donating the stuff wasn't hard either. I just found the address, walked in, said I had donation stuff, and the lady behind the desk said "Oh, thank you so much!" and took it. Considering the approaching holidays and the fact that it's really, really cold in some places right now, please think about sparing a few dollars every week or so and donating to a crisis pregnancy center. It's totally not hard and it means a girl or woman will look at the stuff you bought and feel a sense of hope and relief. Yay. :D
Wednesday, October 13th, 2010
10:06 am
On Men Defining Feminism
I frequently read Jill Stanek's blog. It's an excellent way to keep up with Life news and issues. However, she and her commenters can often lean to the anti-feminist side. One of her recent posts, for example, talks about the recent uptick in conservative women claiming the title of "feminist." Which I think is great. However, looking at the comments, you will see the post from HisMan, a man who defines feminism.

I'm a Christian. I don't disagree that God gave men and women different roles in the church and the family. I'm not only fine with that, I think that they are good ones and build women up. I don't think that Christians who conflate our cultural ideas of male and female roles with the Biblical instructions on male and female roles do anybody any good. It's not just bad feminism, it's bad doctrine, which is much more important from a Christian stand-point.

I say all that to point out that our patriarchy has had an influence even on things we should be very careful not to let be influenced by it. Which, I worry, sometimes makes it very difficult for men, who are otherwise feminists themselves, to think outside of their own privilege. All of which to say, I'm very wary of men who try to define feminism. (Especially if they come out with that "feminist vs feminine" line...whatever that means.) It's not that I don't think some men can do it. It's not even that some men don't do it very well. I just see a lot of men who try very hard and fall very flat.

Thoughts? Do you think there's anything we, as women, can do to help men understand what feminism is really about?

Current Mood: curious
Monday, October 11th, 2010
12:16 pm
All Our Lives and reproductive peace

I'm Jen, and I am the person who was interviewed on the Point of Inquiry show mentioned in a previous post. If anyone has any questions about All Our Lives or would like to talk about the reproductive peace concept, I'd love to talk about it.

I'd also like to point people to the Open Hearts, Open Minds, and Fair Minded Words conference that will be taking place at Princeton University next weekend. I'll be in attendance, and hope to report back on some really productive conversations. If you're interested, most of the panels will be livestreamed on the web site, as well as archived for later viewing. (I think it was the fetal pain session that won't be recorded, for whatever reason).
Saturday, October 9th, 2010
6:33 pm
Are Colleges Killing Babies?
The stories of college girls who get pregnant and then kill their babies out of fear of losing their scholarship crop up once in awhile, and they're always disturbing. But new evidence that these girls' fears are often completely unfounded is even worse.

The Guardian, a college paper at Wright State University in Dayton, Ohio, tackled the issue this month in a short piece that revealed many students simply don't know the nitty gritty of their college's pregnancy policy.


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Friday, October 1st, 2010
12:16 pm
A few thoughts i had on why the pro-life message is failing
I think it is failing because it has been taken over by the religious right when in reality there are many non-religious people who don't believe in it as well and they feel excluded. Also, so many women seeking an abortion see nothing bu shamming and accusing from many pro-lifers. Plus, many people who say they are pro-life seem against helping those women after they have they baby. There are accusations of getting pregnant on purpose to collect a check or not knowing how to close their legs. Do any of those people think that those kinds of statements help the pro-life movement. Also, why are we not holding men accountable for the need for abortions. How many stories I have been told were the guy said get an abortion or we are done? Where have we gone wrong in the way our men are being raised to be reckless and not stand up to the consequences of their actions? I think it is failing because there is not grace or compassion. It is failing because it all about judgment on womankind, not mankind as a whole.

Current Mood: contemplative
Tuesday, June 29th, 2010
11:35 pm
T-shirt Quote
The woman I was sitting behind today had on a Students for Life t-shirt with this quote:

"A woman has a right to her body, even while she's still in the womb."

That's by memory so I may not have it exactly correct, but I liked it enough to share it with you all.
Wednesday, May 26th, 2010
7:59 pm
prolife shirts
http://www.ProlifeDepot.com has prolife shirts on sale for $4.95. My fave is something like "I support a woman's right to be born."
Monday, May 10th, 2010
4:21 pm
Asking A Girl's Father's Permission To Date Her
I ended up talking about that to my mom and some other family members last night. My mother loves the practice. I hate it. I think it's anti-feminist and it is a categorical deal-breaker for me. I ranted about this on my LJ if anyone cares to read the entry.

I'm curious what y'all think about it, though. Do you agree? Disagree? Why? Why not? Am I the only one who thinks all this?

Current Mood: curious
Thursday, March 25th, 2010
10:46 am
Stupak, innocent children get death threats; irony meters go up to 11.
Stupak, the Michigan Democrat whose last-minute compromise on abortion guaranteed passage of the bill Sunday, said callers have left messages for him saying, "You’re dead; we know where you live; we’ll get you."

Slaughter, a Democrat who chairs the House Rules Committee, said a caller to her office last week vowed to send snipers to "kill the children of the members who voted yes."

Emphasis mine; from http://www.politico.com/news/stories/0310/34907.html#ixzz0jCQDxknN

My response is mostly, how can we distance ourselves from these crazy anti-life fuckwads? There seriously needs to be some kind of official schism, whatever these people call themselves, I'm not calling myself that. I'll even become an otherkin if necessary to call myself a different species.

Just....what the fuck, y'all?!

Current Mood: distressed
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